In the search for the perfect mate, it is in our nature to discover similar souls who share the same interests with us and thus reducing our fear of uncertainty. However, similarity can also be the cause of our own downfall.
According to the study of Felmlee, the fatal common attractions are as follows:
what attracted us in the first place is the reason why we break up
1. Fun to foolish. With this situation, individuals were initially drawn to someone because he/she was “fun” and is rarely serious , over time, you view his/her behavior as humiliating or lacking maturity.
2. Strong to domineering. A person who is opinionated and confident may be attractive at first, Later, though, you begin to view these behaviors as too dictatorial, forceful, and/or authoritarian.
3. Spontaneous to unpredictable. Spontaneity excites us therefore; we seek individuals who possess this quality. And again, over time, this may be viewed as the person is unpredictable or unreliable.
No. 3 is a huge red alert here. Perhaps, you may soon unravel the mystery that the person you considered spontaneous turns out to be suffering from BPDO ( Border Personality Disorder) yikes!
The next time you hit the dating scenes, recall this article!
